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BUG\u00dcNLERDE DE\u011e\u0130\u015e\u0130K vesilelerle akl\u0131ma tak\u0131lan mevzulardan birini sizinle payla\u015fmak istedim: a\u011flamak.<\/p>\n
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S\u00fcrekli sorgulamam\u0131z ve Kur’an ve s\u00fcnnet-i seniyye s\u00fczgecinden ge\u00e7irmemiz gereken “gelenek”imizin bir boyutunu da ataerkillik olu\u015fturuyor. Bunun neticesinde de erke\u011fin gayr-\u0131 f\u0131tri bir bi\u00e7imde kendini “g\u00fc\u00e7”lendirmesi i\u00e7in, gayr-\u0131 f\u0131tri amellerle i\u011freti fiiller de beraberinde geliyor. <\/p>\n
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Erke\u011fin kad\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc, sanki insan\u00fcst\u00fc bir varl\u0131km\u0131\u015f\u00e7as\u0131na g\u00f6sterilmesi i\u00e7in “kad\u0131ns\u0131” duyarl\u0131l\u0131klardan, \u2018light\u2019l\u0131ktan, acziyet g\u00f6stergesi fiillerden uzak durmas\u0131 gerekiyor ki, bu fiillerin de en hulasa hali olarak “a\u011flamak” ilk s\u0131rada geliyor. <\/p>\n
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H\u00e2lihaz\u0131r k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fcz bize “erkekler a\u011flamaz” d\u00fcsturunu empoze ediyor bu y\u00fczden. A\u011flamak gibi Allah\u2019\u0131n en g\u00fczel rahmet nimetlerinden birinden bizi mahrum ediyor. Peygamber Efendimiz aleyhissaalatuvesselam b\u00f6yle tarif ediyor a\u011flamay\u0131: “Bu, Allah\u2019\u0131n kullar\u0131n\u0131n kalbine koydu\u011fu bir rahmettir.” <\/p>\n
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O ki kadere, hayr\u0131n ve \u015ferrin Allah\u2019tan oldu\u011funa, her \u015feyin ve her olay\u0131n Allah\u2019\u0131n birer vazifeli tesbih\u00e7isi oldu\u011funa sars\u0131lmaz bir iman\u0131 olan \u0130nsanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n \u0130ftihar Tablosu aleyhissalatu vesselam b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlarla birlikte torununun \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcne a\u011fl\u0131yor. <\/p>\n
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Ve bunu da bir rahmet nimeti olarak de\u011ferlendiriyor. Zira g\u00f6zya\u015flar\u0131 da Allah\u2019\u0131n esmas\u0131na en g\u00fczel bir ayna oluyor onun y\u00fcz\u00fcnde. Bu onun i\u00e7in \u00f6yle oldu\u011fu gibi bizim i\u00e7in de b\u00f6yle; icmal-tafsil fark\u0131 ile. A\u011flayarak Rahman-\u0131 Rahim\u2019in rahmetine ayna oluyoruz biz de.<\/p>\n
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Yine Muhammed-i Arab\u00ee aleyhissalatu vesselam ki, bir ba\u015fka hadisinde “Siz benim bildi\u011fimi bilmi\u015f olsayd\u0131n\u0131z, elbette az g\u00fcler, \u00e7ok a\u011flard\u0131n\u0131z” buyuruyor.<\/p>\n
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Yine o Nebiyy-i Muhterem aleyhissalatu vesselam ki, “ya\u015farmayan g\u00f6zden” Allah\u2019a s\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131yor.<\/p>\n
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Fakat maalesef kendi \u00e7ocuklu\u011fuma bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda hep bu “erkekler a\u011flamaz” e\u011fitimini ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131, hatta Allah i\u00e7in a\u011flayanlar\u0131 hakir g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fc farkettim. Hatta bir g\u00fcn televizyonda [hen\u00fcz 8-9 ya\u015flar\u0131ndayken] a\u011flayarak vaaz eden bir hocaefendiyi g\u00f6r\u00fcp hayat\u0131m\u0131n ilk ve tek 15 g\u00fcnl\u00fck g\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne o g\u00fcn biz “S\u00fcper Baba\u201dy\u0131 seyretmek isterken babam\u0131n o hocaefendiyi dinlemesinin beni rahats\u0131z etti\u011fini, onun “s\u00fcrekli a\u011flamas\u0131ndan” hi\u00e7 ho\u015flanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 yazm\u0131\u015f\u0131m. <\/p>\n
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Ve yine ayn\u0131 ben, babaannemin vefat\u0131 d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda babam\u0131n hi\u00e7 a\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131na \u015fahit olmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Zaten o zaman da art\u0131k onalt\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131ndayd\u0131m. Yani bir yeti\u015fme d\u00f6nemi, e\u011fitim d\u00f6nemi “a\u011flamay\u0131” \u00f6\u011frenemeden, hatta a\u011flaman\u0131n k\u00f6t\u00fc bir\u015fey oldu\u011funu \u00f6\u011frenerek ge\u00e7ip gitmi\u015fti.<\/p>\n
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E\u011fer siz de h\u00e2l\u00e2 a\u011flamay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenemeyenlerden iseniz, gelin \u00e7ok ge\u00e7 olmadan “oturup a\u011flayal\u0131m.” G\u00fcnahlar\u0131m\u0131za a\u011flayal\u0131m, kendimizinkiler az gelirse b\u00fct\u00fcn insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n g\u00fcnahlar\u0131na a\u011flayal\u0131m; a\u011flamay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenemeyi\u015fimize a\u011flayal\u0131m, a\u011flayamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131za a\u011flayal\u0131m. A\u011flayal\u0131m ki, Allah\u2019\u0131n rahmet-i b\u00eenihayesine ayna olal\u0131m. <\/p>\n
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Ne mutlu o a\u011flayanlara!<\/p>\n
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06.06.2008 BUG\u00dcNLERDE DE\u011e\u0130\u015e\u0130K vesilelerle akl\u0131ma tak\u0131lan mevzulardan birini sizinle payla\u015fmak istedim: a\u011flamak. S\u00fcrekli sorgulamam\u0131z ve Kur’an ve s\u00fcnnet-i seniyye s\u00fczgecinden ge\u00e7irmemiz gereken “gelenek”imizin bir boyutunu da ataerkillik olu\u015fturuyor. Bunun neticesinde de erke\u011fin gayr-\u0131 f\u0131tri bir bi\u00e7imde kendini “g\u00fc\u00e7”lendirmesi i\u00e7in, gayr-\u0131 f\u0131tri amellerle i\u011freti fiiller de beraberinde geliyor. Erke\u011fin kad\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc, sanki insan\u00fcst\u00fc bir […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"ppma_author":[156],"class_list":["post-88546","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-yazarlar"],"yoast_head":"\n