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\u0130RAN\u2019DA D\u0130KKAT\u0130M\u0130Z\u0130 \u00e7eken en \u00f6nemli sosyal olgulardan biri hi\u00e7 \u015f\u00fcphesiz \u2018te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019 oldu. Arap\u00e7a tan\u0131\u015fmak manas\u0131na gelen bu kelime, \u0130ran\u2019da \u00e7ok ilgin\u00e7 bir sosyal k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcn ad\u0131 haline gelmi\u015f. San\u0131r\u0131m bunun kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 T\u00fcrk\u00e7ede bulmam\u0131z \u00e7ok m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fil. Zira terimin kar\u015f\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131 kavram, \u015f\u00fck\u00fcr ki toplumumuzda ve tarihimizde, kurumsalla\u015facak denli varl\u0131k sahnesine \u00e7\u0131kmam\u0131\u015f.<\/p>\n
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Neden mi bahsediyoruz? Riyan\u0131n toplumsal bir m\u00fcessese h\u00e2lini alm\u0131\u015f \u015feklinden bahsediyoruz, yani \u2018te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019ten. <\/p>\n
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\u2018Te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019 g\u00f6rebildi\u011fimiz kadar\u0131yla, \u0130ranl\u0131lar\u0131n toplumsal kabul\u00fcn\u00fc kazanm\u0131\u015f, bu y\u00fczden de ailede hen\u00fcz \u00e7ok k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015flardayken \u00f6\u011fretilir h\u00e2le gelmi\u015f bir davran\u0131\u015f bi\u00e7imi. Yapmayaca\u011f\u0131, hatta yapamayaca\u011f\u0131 ve daha da \u00f6tesi yapmaktan hi\u00e7 de memnun olmayaca\u011f\u0131 \u015feyi yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleme tavr\u0131 diyebiliriz k\u0131saca. <\/p>\n
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Yap(a)mayaca\u011f\u0131 \u015feyi yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6ylemek
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Ger\u00e7i \u2018te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019\u00fcn kapsam\u0131 daha geni\u015f elbette, i\u00e7inde sadece nezaketen s\u00f6ylenmi\u015f iltifatlar vesaire de var, insan\u0131n \u00fczerine bir \u015fey yapma sorumlulu\u011fu y\u00fcklemeyen. Fakat en riskli k\u0131sm\u0131, bana g\u00f6re, insan\u0131n yapmayaca\u011f\u0131 \u015feyi yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6ylemesi h\u00e2li.<\/p>\n
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\u00d6rneklerle biraz daha g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcne getirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fal\u0131m. Mesela bir taksiye bindiniz, taksici sizin yabanc\u0131 oldu\u011funuzu anlad\u0131 ve kendini hemen te\u00e2r\u00fcf yapmak zorunda hissetti. \u201cK\u00e2bil n\u00eest\u201d veya \u201ck\u00e2bili yoktur\u201d diyerek sizden para kabul etmeyece\u011fini s\u00f6yledi. Fakat elbette ki sizden paras\u0131n\u0131 alacak, e\u011fer \u2018te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019\u00fc bilmeyip de para vermezseniz, o sizden almas\u0131n\u0131 bilecektir. \u015e\u00fck\u00fcr ki biz \u0130ran\u2019a gitmeden \u00f6nce \u2018te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019\u00fcn varl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan haberdar olmu\u015ftuk.<\/p>\n
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Ayn\u0131 \u015fey marketlerde vb. al\u0131\u015fveri\u015flerde de kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kabilir. Bunun bir ad\u0131m ilerisi de sizi yeme\u011fe ve hatta evde yat\u0131l\u0131 misafirli\u011fe davet etmek olacakt\u0131r. Yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131kla bu daveti kabul edecek olursa insan, \u2018te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019\u00fc yapan ki\u015fiyi epey bir zor durumda b\u0131rakacakt\u0131r. Bu sadece yabanc\u0131lara kar\u015f\u0131 b\u00f6yle de\u011fil elbette. \u0130ranl\u0131lar kendi aralar\u0131nda da \u2018te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019\u00fc asla ellerinden b\u0131rakm\u0131yorlar. \u00d6yle ki telefon konu\u015fmalar\u0131 sarf edilen nazik te\u00e2r\u00fcf c\u00fcmlelerinden dolay\u0131 bir hayli uzuyor, g\u00fcndelik konu\u015fmalar da \u00f6yle tabi. <\/p>\n
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Daha da ilginci, \u2018te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019\u00fcn dahi te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u00fc yap\u0131labiliyor. \u0130nsanlar yapt\u0131klar\u0131 \u2018te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019\u00fc daha inand\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 h\u00e2le getirmek i\u00e7in \u201cte\u00e2r\u00fcf yapm\u0131yorum\u201d diye eklemeyi de unutmuyorlar.<\/p>\n
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Peki, nas\u0131l oldu da bu g\u00fczelim kelime, b\u00f6yle bir m\u00e2n\u00e2 kazand\u0131?<\/p>\n
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Takiyye, \u2018te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019\u00fcn toplumsalla\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 kolay k\u0131l\u0131yor
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Tahminimce \u2018te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019\u00fcn \u0130ran toplumunda bu denli k\u00f6k salmas\u0131n\u0131n alt\u0131nda \u015eia inanc\u0131nda takiyyenin caiz ve hatta baz\u0131 durumlarda gerekli olmas\u0131 yat\u0131yor. Tarih boyunca \u0130ran\u2019\u0131n diplomaside olduk\u00e7a mahir olmas\u0131yla, toplumsal bir diplomasi olan \u2018te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019 aras\u0131nda bir ili\u015fki var m\u0131, do\u011frusu bilemiyorum. Ancak ikisini de takiyyeye olan cevaz\u0131n kolayla\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 tahmin ediyorum.<\/p>\n
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Maalesef \u2018te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019 y\u00fcz\u00fcnden kimse kimseye, \u00e7ok \u00e7ok emin olmad\u0131k\u00e7a, g\u00fcvenemiyor. Toplumsal g\u00fcven ciddi \u015fekilde k\u0131r\u0131l\u0131yor. Yalanc\u0131 \u00e7oban hik\u00e2yesindeki gibi, velev ki ger\u00e7ekten s\u00f6ylense de insan, edilen davetlere ic\u00e2bet etmekte hakl\u0131 olarak \u00e7ekiniyor.<\/p>\n
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Peki \u2018Te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019un hi\u00e7 mi olumlu yan\u0131 yok? Elbette ki var. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n birbirlerine kibarca konu\u015fmalar\u0131 ve \u015fiir gibi iltifat c\u00fcmleleri sarf etmeleri toplumsal nezaket ve mu\u00e2\u015feret a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan olumlu olarak g\u00f6r\u00fclebilecek yanlar\u0131. Lakin sa\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 hi\u00e7bir fayda, toplumsal g\u00fcvenin yitirilmesine de\u011fmiyor maalesef.<\/p>\n
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11.10.2013 \u0130RAN\u2019DA D\u0130KKAT\u0130M\u0130Z\u0130 \u00e7eken en \u00f6nemli sosyal olgulardan biri hi\u00e7 \u015f\u00fcphesiz \u2018te\u00e2r\u00fcf\u2019 oldu. Arap\u00e7a tan\u0131\u015fmak manas\u0131na gelen bu kelime, \u0130ran\u2019da \u00e7ok ilgin\u00e7 bir sosyal k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcn ad\u0131 haline gelmi\u015f. San\u0131r\u0131m bunun kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 T\u00fcrk\u00e7ede bulmam\u0131z \u00e7ok m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fil. Zira terimin kar\u015f\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131 kavram, \u015f\u00fck\u00fcr ki toplumumuzda ve tarihimizde, kurumsalla\u015facak denli varl\u0131k sahnesine \u00e7\u0131kmam\u0131\u015f. Neden mi bahsediyoruz? Riyan\u0131n toplumsal […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"ppma_author":[156],"class_list":["post-88522","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-yazarlar"],"yoast_head":"\n