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–\tPARDON?? BU ceketin 38 bedeni var m\u0131 acaba_?<\/p>\n
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–\tBi sn bakay\u0131m can\u0131m. Aaa o ceketin istedi\u011fin bedeninden kalmam\u0131\u015f ama bak \u015fu model de \u00e7ok g\u00fczel. Bi dener misin tatl\u0131m bakal\u0131m nas\u0131l duracak?<\/p>\n
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–\tCan\u0131m derken_?<\/p>\n
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Asl\u0131nda bu diyaloglar\u0131 bir \u00e7o\u011fumuz, bir\u00e7ok zaman ve mekanda ya\u015f\u0131yoruz. Daha ilk defa g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz ya\u015f\u0131 da muhtemelen sizden k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck olan bir sat\u0131\u015f eleman\u0131 art\u0131k nas\u0131l bir e\u011fitimden ge\u00e7tiyse size durmadan can\u0131m, cicim diye hitap etmek zorunda hissediyor kendini. Benim genel olarak bu diyaloglar\u0131n sonunda \u015f\u00f6yle demek geliyor i\u00e7imden. Tekrar yazal\u0131m.<\/p>\n
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–\tPardon?? Bu ceketin 38 bedeni var m\u0131 acaba_?<\/p>\n
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–\tBi sn bakay\u0131m can\u0131m. Aaa o ceketin istedi\u011fin bedeninden kalmam\u0131\u015f ama bak \u015fu model de \u00e7ok g\u00fczel. Bi dener misin tatl\u0131m bakal\u0131m nas\u0131l duracak?<\/p>\n
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–\tCan\u0131m m\u0131? Han\u0131m efendi pardon ama bir yerlerden tan\u0131\u015f\u0131yor muyuz sizinle? Daha \u00f6nce kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131k m\u0131 hi\u00e7? S\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131 anlar\u0131m\u0131zda dertle\u015ftik mi hi\u00e7? Oturup bir \u015feyler yiyip i\u00e7tik mi beraber? Ben hi\u00e7 hat\u0131rlam\u0131yorum da.. Bu samimiyetiniz nereden geliyor acaba?<\/p>\n
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Asl\u0131nda \u201ccan\u0131m\u201d hitab\u0131 \u00e7ok \u00f6zel ve \u00f6nemlidir. Bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnelim bakal\u0131m, can\u0131m derken neleri kast ediyoruz? Can\u0131m, yani kendi varl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131n devam\u0131 kadar sevdi\u011fim.. Can\u0131m, kendi ad\u0131ma istedi\u011fim her t\u00fcrl\u00fc iyili\u011fi ve g\u00fczelli\u011fi onun i\u00e7inde istedi\u011fim.. Can\u0131m, kendi konforum, rahat\u0131m, s\u0131hhatim kadar sevdi\u011fim.. Can\u0131m, k\u00f6t\u00fc g\u00fcnlerimde yan\u0131mda buldu\u011fum, k\u00f6t\u00fc g\u00fcnlerinde yan\u0131nda oldu\u011fum. Can\u0131m, sofras\u0131nda muhabbetle a\u011f\u0131rland\u0131\u011f\u0131m.. Can\u0131m, davetsiz \u00e7at kap\u0131 \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p gidebildi\u011fim.. Can\u0131m, her ba\u015f s\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131mda aray\u0131p, fikrini alma hissi duydu\u011fum. Can\u0131m, uzun s\u00fcre g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015femedi\u011fimde acayip derecede \u00f6zledi\u011fim. Can\u0131m, sevdi\u011fim, g\u00fcvendi\u011fim, y\u00fcre\u011fimde, lisan\u0131mda, dualar\u0131mda yeri olan..<\/p>\n
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Sadece be\u015f harften olu\u015fmu\u015f \u015fu g\u00fczel kelime i\u015fte b\u00f6ylesi derin anlamlar i\u00e7eriyor asl\u0131nda. Birine can\u0131m derken, duydu\u011funuz \u00f6zlem ve sevginin boyutundan burnunuz s\u0131zl\u0131yorsa o ki\u015fi ger\u00e7ekten bu hitaba lay\u0131kt\u0131r demektir. Bu g\u00fczel kelime art\u0131k \u00f6ylesine \u00e7ar\u00e7ur edilir oldu ki, \u015fa\u015f\u0131r\u0131yorum. Bir ortamda yeni tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir akran\u0131n\u0131z topu topu 20 dakikal\u0131k bir tan\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ard\u0131ndan, \u201cay tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7ok memnun oldum can\u0131m, arada g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015felim he mi?\u201d ifadeleri ile u\u011furlayabiliyor mesela sizi. \u201cYa hu dur! Bu ne acele? Daha yeni tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131k. Biraz zaman ge\u00e7seydi. Birka\u00e7 an\u0131m\u0131z birikseydi. \u0130yi g\u00fcn\u00fcnde k\u00f6t\u00fc g\u00fcn\u00fcnde yan\u0131nda olaca\u011f\u0131mdan emin olsayd\u0131n bir.\u201d<\/p>\n
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Herkese can\u0131m denir mi? Can\u0131m can\u0131m demek do\u011fru olur mu? Do\u011fru olmasa gerek. Can\u0131m diye hitap etti\u011fin ki\u015fiyi ger\u00e7ekten yukar\u0131da yaz\u0131lanlar kadar seviyor musun? Yoo, sevemezsin ki, daha yeni tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131n. Hatta belki daha ad\u0131n\u0131 bile bilmiyorsun. O zaman niye bu kadar yalanc\u0131 ve h\u0131zl\u0131s\u0131n? <\/p>\n
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\u201cD\u00fcnyan\u0131n suyu \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u201d deniyor ya. Hakikaten \u00f6yle sevgilerin, sevgi hitaplar\u0131n\u0131n bile suyu \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131 art\u0131k. Evvel bir edep, bir haya, bir sayg\u0131 ve pek tabii sevgide vard\u0131 insanlar aras\u0131nda ve sevgiler bu kadar basit ifade edilmiyordu zann\u0131mca. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn \u201ccan\u0131m, a\u015fk\u0131m, cicim, \u015fekerim, tatl\u0131m..\u201d gibi basit ifadelerinin yerine \u201cg\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcn nuru\u201d, \u201c g\u00f6nl\u00fcm\u00fcn s\u00fcruru\u201d , \u201czat-\u0131 \u015fahanem\u201d , \u201cg\u00f6nl\u00fcm\u00fcn b\u00fclb\u00fcl\u00fc\u201d , \u201cruhumun g\u0131das\u0131\u201d , \u201cletaifimin incilas\u0131\u201d , \u201ccan\u0131m\u0131n can\u0131\u201d daha nice latif sevgi s\u00f6zc\u00fcklerine rastlamak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn. <\/p>\n
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Birbirimize bu kadar basit daha g\u00f6r\u00fcr g\u00f6rmez can\u0131m, cicim demeyelim. Tan\u0131madan sevemeyiz ki.. Bu hitaplara ge\u00e7meden evvel \u00f6nce biraz sizli-bizli ve daha ziyade sayg\u0131 \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde tan\u0131mam\u0131z gerekir birbirimizi. Sayg\u0131 temeline oturmu\u015f bir tan\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ard\u0131ndan g\u00f6n\u00fcller severse birbirini can\u0131m desin, cicim desin, g\u00f6nl\u00fcne ne ilham oluyorsa onu s\u00f6ylesin ama sayg\u0131s\u0131z sevgi, emeksiz yeme\u011fe benzer. Emeksiz yemek ya iyi pi\u015fmez, kar\u0131n a\u011fr\u0131t\u0131r; ya orant\u0131s\u0131z tatland\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r, mide ek\u015fitir. Sayg\u0131s\u0131z ve tan\u0131\u015f\u0131ks\u0131z sevgi hitaplar\u0131 da ya bir al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f esnas\u0131nda ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 a\u011fr\u0131t\u0131r. Ya da g\u00fczel bir a\u015fka, iyi bir birlikteli\u011fe do\u011fru giderken, bir anda senli-benli, can\u0131ml\u0131-cicimli-a\u015fkl\u0131-me\u015fkli olmak alel acele nikahlar\u0131 ve ard\u0131ndan h\u0131zl\u0131 bo\u015fanmalar\u0131 do\u011furur. <\/p>\n
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\u00d6nce siz, biz hitab\u0131yla ve sayg\u0131yla ba\u015flamal\u0131 tan\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131klar, arkada\u015fl\u0131klar.. Ortak paydalar, payla\u015f\u0131mlar \u00e7o\u011fald\u0131k\u00e7a artmal\u0131 latif hitaplar. Birbirini tan\u0131yan iki insan, ister evlilik i\u00e7in g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor olsunlar, isterse dostluk. \u0130lla temeli sayg\u0131yla olu\u015fturmal\u0131lar. Damdan d\u00fc\u015fer gibi ve son derece k\u0131ymetsiz bir hitap gibi kullan\u0131lan \u201ccan\u0131m\u201d hitaplar\u0131n\u0131 sevmiyorum ve de sevemeyece\u011fim san\u0131r\u0131m.<\/p>\n
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Birine can\u0131m demek, birilerinin g\u00f6nl\u00fcnde can olabilmek bu kadar kolay, bu kadar emeksiz ve bu kadar basit olmasa gerek. Birine can\u0131m derken y\u00fcre\u011finizle s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorsan\u0131z eyvallah ama s\u0131rf \u00f6ylesine can\u0131m demek, olmuyor yak\u0131\u015f\u0131r durmuyor, abes bir bi\u00e7imde s\u0131r\u0131t\u0131yor vesselam.<\/p>\n
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Cenab-\u0131 Allah hayat\u0131m\u0131zda yer alan ve g\u00f6nl\u00fcm\u00fczle beraber \u201ccan\u0131m\u201d diyebildi\u011finiz ger\u00e7ek ki\u015filerin say\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 artt\u0131rs\u0131n in\u015faallah.<\/p>\n
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17.04.2013 – PARDON?? BU ceketin 38 bedeni var m\u0131 acaba_? – Bi sn bakay\u0131m can\u0131m. Aaa o ceketin istedi\u011fin bedeninden kalmam\u0131\u015f ama bak \u015fu model de \u00e7ok g\u00fczel. Bi dener misin tatl\u0131m bakal\u0131m nas\u0131l duracak? – Can\u0131m derken_? Asl\u0131nda bu diyaloglar\u0131 bir \u00e7o\u011fumuz, bir\u00e7ok zaman ve mekanda ya\u015f\u0131yoruz. Daha ilk defa g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz ya\u015f\u0131 da muhtemelen […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"ppma_author":[150],"class_list":["post-88199","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-yazarlar"],"yoast_head":"\n