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B\u0130R BEBEK do\u011fdu\u011funda kendisini ve \u00f6tekini alg\u0131layamaz. Hatta denilebilir ki, kendini kainat denizinde bir damla i\u00e7i\u00e7e ge\u00e7mi\u015f vahdetin bir c\u00fcz\u00fc olarak bilir. Bu y\u00fczden onu kundaklar\u0131z. Modernler ne derse desin, kundaklamak \u00e7ocu\u011fa kendi varl\u0131k s\u0131n\u0131r\u0131n\u0131 bildiren, \u00f6tekinin nerede ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131na i\u015faret eden bir ara\u00e7t\u0131r. Bizzat s\u00fcnnettir, Efendimiz torunlar\u0131n\u0131 kundaklatm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Mahlukat\u0131n di\u011fer c\u00fczlerinin tersine, insan\u0131n varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, benli\u011fini bilmesi, kendini \u00f6tekinden, kainattan ay\u0131rmas\u0131, o cennetvari s\u00fcrur veren vahdetten kopmas\u0131, b\u00fcy\u00fck bir nimettir, insan olman\u0131n ilk ve en ac\u0131l\u0131 ad\u0131m\u0131d\u0131r. Belki de bebek annesinin bedeninden ayr\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, tek ba\u015f\u0131na kendini hissetmenin ac\u0131s\u0131d\u0131r ilk a\u011flama, kim bilir?<\/p>\n
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\u0130nsan olmak i\u00e7in enemizin fark\u0131na varmak, kendimizi ba\u015fkalar\u0131ndan ay\u0131rmak ilk \u015fartt\u0131r. Bu kopu\u015f, zahiren bir \u015firki \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131\u015ft\u0131rsa da, b\u00fct\u00fcnden ayr\u0131l\u0131\u015f\u0131 netice verse de, yolculu\u011fun ba\u015flang\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. Kam\u0131\u015f\u0131n sazl\u0131ktan kopar\u0131l\u0131\u015f ve ney olu\u015f \u00f6yk\u00fcs\u00fcd\u00fcr. Vuslata giden yolda ayr\u0131l\u0131k olmazsa olmazd\u0131r. Ayr\u0131l\u0131k olmadan, sevgiliden kopar\u0131lmadan, kimse a\u015fk\u0131n kadrini bilemez.<\/p>\n
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Benimizi in\u015fa ederiz yava\u015f yava\u015f, ta\u015f \u00fcst\u00fcne ta\u015f koyar\u0131z, kendimizi tan\u0131mlar\u0131z, iktidar alan\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 belirleriz, bu alan\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda kalan\u0131 fark ederiz, farkl\u0131 olanla sava\u015f\u0131r\u0131z, altetmeye, h\u00fckmetmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131z, ba\u015faramad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda ate\u015fkes yapar\u0131z. Ate\u015fkes s\u0131ras\u0131nda \u00f6tekini inceleriz. D\u00fc\u015fman\u0131 tan\u0131maya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma gayretidir bu \u00f6nceleri. Benlik i\u00e7in kendi d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndaki her \u015fey d\u00fc\u015fmand\u0131r, yabanc\u0131d\u0131r. Bakt\u0131k\u00e7a ona, g\u00f6zlemledik\u00e7e, benzerliklerimizi fark ederiz. Ortak noktalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ke\u015ffederiz. Ke\u015ffettik\u00e7e \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131k ya\u015far\u0131z. Empati yapmaya ba\u015flar\u0131z. Onun sandalyesine oturur, onun g\u00f6z\u00fcyle d\u00fcnyaya bakar\u0131z. Bundan ho\u015flan\u0131r\u0131z. Anlar\u0131z ki, bu empati denen yetenekle, ger\u00e7ekte olmasa bile hayalen herkes olmak ve birden \u00e7ok hayatlar ya\u015famak m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. Bir roman kahraman\u0131nda, bir film karesinde, bizimle dertle\u015fen bir yak\u0131n\u0131m\u0131zda, bir \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc sayfa haberinde, hayalen \u00e7ok hayatlar ya\u015far\u0131z. \u201cBen\u201d iken \u201csen\u201d olup \u201csen\u201din hayat tecr\u00fcbelerini ediniriz. Onun durdu\u011fu yerden kainat\u0131 okuruz. Bu sayede olabildi\u011fimiz sen miktar\u0131nca \u00e7ok hayatlar ya\u015far, kainatla b\u00fct\u00fcnle\u015firiz. Ayr\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z cennete geri d\u00f6neriz.<\/p>\n
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Sorun tam da burada ba\u015flar. Empati yapmak, \u201csen\u201d olmak keyifli ama tehlikeli bir s\u00fcre\u00e7tir. Bazen insan bunu s\u0131k\u00e7a yapmaktan, s\u00fcrekli ba\u015fka sandalyelerde oturmaktan, oralardan bulundu\u011fu odaya bakmaktan, kendi yerini kaybedebilir. Yahut en hafifi, sandalyesine d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde, d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan kendi evine geldi\u011finde, hi\u00e7bir \u015fey ona ait g\u00f6z\u00fckmeyebilir. Kendi sorunlar\u0131na, a\u00e7mazlar\u0131na, ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131na \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm \u00fcretemez hale gelir. Evini toparlayacak kadar evinde kalmamaktad\u0131r \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc. Kutular \u00fcst \u00fcste y\u0131\u011f\u0131l\u0131r. E\u015fyalar yerle\u015ftirilmeden ortal\u0131\u011fa b\u0131rak\u0131l\u0131r. Her yeri kal\u0131n bir toz tabakas\u0131 kaplar. Evin efendisi kap\u0131 kap\u0131 gezmektedir. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n sorunlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zmeye, onlar\u0131n sevin\u00e7lerini payla\u015fmaya harcad\u0131\u011f\u0131 vaktin onda birini, kendine \u00e7ok g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Varolu\u015funu d\u0131\u015fardan tan\u0131mlar. Kendine yabanc\u0131la\u015f\u0131r. Bir de bakars\u0131n\u0131z, ba\u015fkalar\u0131na son derece merhametli, anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131, ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fc olan bu zat, kendine kar\u015f\u0131 ac\u0131mas\u0131z, yarg\u0131lay\u0131c\u0131, umutsuz, zorlay\u0131c\u0131 bir hale gelmi\u015f. Bu en i\u00e7 dairede sadece kendisine y\u00f6nelik bir davran\u0131\u015f olmaktan \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p, yak\u0131n halkalarda bulunan ailesine, akrabalar\u0131na, cemaatine, mensub oldu\u011fu millete de sirayet eden, \u201cne kadar \u00f6teki o kadar makbul\u201d dedi\u011fi bir s\u00fcrece s\u00fcr\u00fcklemi\u015ftir onu.<\/p>\n
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\u00d6tekini d\u00fc\u015fman kabul etmek, nefret etmek, onunla sava\u015fmak nas\u0131l y\u0131prat\u0131c\u0131 ise, \u00f6teki ile \u00f6zde\u015f hale gelmek \u201cben\u201di unutup \u201co\u201d olmak da \u00f6yle hastal\u0131kl\u0131 bir varolu\u015f bi\u00e7imidir. Bize verilen t\u00fcm kabiliyetler gibi \u201cben\u201dimizi de hadd-i vasatta yarad\u0131l\u0131\u015f amac\u0131 \u00fczere bir k\u0131yas aleti olarak kullanmak, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 ziyaret etmek, ama daima evimize d\u00f6nmek, en \u00e7ok vakti \u201cben\u201dimizle ge\u00e7irmek, onun penceresinden d\u00fcnyaya bakmak, onun rengine b\u00fcr\u00fcnmek, ondaki ism-i azam\u0131 bulup \u00e7\u0131karmakt\u0131r vazifemiz. Empati yetene\u011fi bize kainatta kaosa, fesada sebebiyet vermeyelim diye verilmi\u015ftir. Daima ba\u015fkas\u0131 olup, ona \u00f6zenip, onunla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131r\u0131p, kendimizi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemek, kendimizin k\u0131ymetini bilmemek \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck insafs\u0131zl\u0131kt\u0131r.<\/p>\n
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Veda Hutbesinde Efendimiz insanlara cana k\u0131ymamalar\u0131n\u0131, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 me\u015fru haklar\u0131ndan mahrum etmemelerini s\u00f6ylerken, ashab\u0131na da nefislerine zulmetmemelerini s\u00f6ylemi\u015ftir. Burada \u201cYa eyyuhennas\u201d ibaresi ile \u00f6tekine edilen d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131\u011fa, \u201cya ashabi\u201d hitab\u0131 ile nefse edilen zulme i\u015faret etmesi manidard\u0131r. M\u00fcbarek hitab\u0131n kat kat manalar\u0131ndan benim acizane anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m, biz m\u00fc\u2019minlerin ba\u015fkalar\u0131na g\u00f6sterdi\u011fimiz h\u00fcrmeti, anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131, verdi\u011fimiz \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc kendi nefsimize reva g\u00f6rmeme olas\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc oldu\u011fudur. Yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken \u201cben\u201d ve \u201c\u00f6teki\u201d aras\u0131nda, Rahman suresinde belirtildi\u011fi gibi, f\u0131traten konulmu\u015f mizana dokunmadan, dengeyi bozmadan ya\u015famakt\u0131r. Afaki olana \u00e7ok\u00e7a yo\u011funla\u015f\u0131p, kesrette da\u011f\u0131l\u0131p, enf\u00fcsi olana, kendi i\u00e7 sesini dinlemeye, kendinin fark\u0131na varmaya, kendi ile ba\u015fba\u015fa kalmaya bigane kalmamakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n
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\u0130nsan\u0131n kendini bilmesi, \u00f6tekini tan\u0131mas\u0131, kendi ve \u00f6tekilerin toplam\u0131ndan olu\u015fan kainat\u0131 anlamland\u0131rmas\u0131, yorumlamas\u0131, onu varl\u0131k amac\u0131n\u0131 tahakkuk ettirmeye, Rabbini tan\u0131maya y\u00f6neltir. Ancak bu sayede a\u015fk ac\u0131s\u0131 diner, vuslat ger\u00e7ekle\u015fir. Rabb bizi kendisinden ac\u0131 \u00e7ekmemiz i\u00e7in ay\u0131r\u0131p bu kainata yollamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r, bilakis bize kendinden ayr\u0131 bir benlik vermekle bize kendimizi, t\u00fcm \u00f6tekileri, ve Z\u00e2t\u0131n\u0131 anlayabilecek bir donan\u0131m l\u00fctfetmi\u015ftir. Bizim de ona d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fcz, t\u00fcm kainat\u0131 ceplerimizi doldurmu\u015f, ona hediye eden bir halde olmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00dcryan halde d\u00fcnyaya gelen insan O\u2019na t\u00fcm kainat\u0131n halifesi s\u0131fat\u0131yla d\u00f6ns\u00fcn murad etmi\u015ftir Rabb\u00fc\u2019l-alem\u00een. Zahiren bir c\u00fcz iken bir k\u00fcll olsun dilemi\u015ftir. Bunun i\u00e7in de hem \u201cben\u201din hem de \u201c\u00f6teki\u201dnin sa\u011flam ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 kalmas\u0131, tahrib edilmemesi \u015fartt\u0131r.<\/p>\n
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25.05.2008 B\u0130R BEBEK do\u011fdu\u011funda kendisini ve \u00f6tekini alg\u0131layamaz. Hatta denilebilir ki, kendini kainat denizinde bir damla i\u00e7i\u00e7e ge\u00e7mi\u015f vahdetin bir c\u00fcz\u00fc olarak bilir. Bu y\u00fczden onu kundaklar\u0131z. Modernler ne derse desin, kundaklamak \u00e7ocu\u011fa kendi varl\u0131k s\u0131n\u0131r\u0131n\u0131 bildiren, \u00f6tekinin nerede ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131na i\u015faret eden bir ara\u00e7t\u0131r. Bizzat s\u00fcnnettir, Efendimiz torunlar\u0131n\u0131 kundaklatm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Mahlukat\u0131n di\u011fer c\u00fczlerinin tersine, insan\u0131n varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"ppma_author":[140],"class_list":["post-86551","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-yazarlar"],"yoast_head":"\n