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G\u00dcNDEL\u0130K HAYATIN ak\u0131\u015f\u0131 i\u00e7inde, b\u00fcy\u00fck foto\u011fraflar, b\u00fcy\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler, b\u00fcy\u00fck hedefler aras\u0131nda k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck davran\u0131\u015flar, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck tav\u0131r al\u0131\u015flar boy verir.<\/p>\n
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Oldum olas\u0131, bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u015feylere dikkat etmi\u015fimdir. B\u00fcy\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerin veya b\u00fcy\u00fck hedeflerin, bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u015feylerle s\u0131nand\u0131\u011f\u0131na inan\u0131r\u0131m \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc. B\u00fcy\u00fck meselelerdeki i\u00e7tenli\u011fimizin, hasb\u00eeli\u011fimizin, adanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n kendisini bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck meselelerde ele verdi\u011fine inan\u0131r\u0131m. B\u00fcy\u00fck bir davan\u0131n derdini dillendiren bir ki\u015fi, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir davada ne yapmaktad\u0131r? B\u00fcy\u00fck bir mesele i\u00e7in hayat\u0131n\u0131 ortaya koymaktan s\u00f6z eden bir ki\u015fi, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir meselede nas\u0131l davranmaktad\u0131r? B\u00fcy\u00fck bir dostlu\u011fun \u00f6zlemini \u00e7eken bir ki\u015fi, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir s\u0131nanma an\u0131nda dostuna kar\u015f\u0131 nas\u0131l bir tav\u0131r tak\u0131nmaktad\u0131r?<\/p>\n
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B\u00f6ylesi sorular e\u015fli\u011finde, davalar\u0131n, dertlerin, ideallerin ve dostluklar\u0131n turnusolu oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm; bu arada \u00f6zellikle kendi dostlu\u011fumu, ideallerimi, adanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 kendisiyle s\u0131nad\u0131\u011f\u0131m bir \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fc, \u2018risk almak\u2019t\u0131r.<\/p>\n
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\u201cTeoride, teori ile pratik aras\u0131nda bir fark yoktur; ama pratikte, vard\u0131r\u201d der bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen adam. \u0130\u015fte, benim a\u00e7\u0131mdan da, \u2018teoride\u2019 dostlu\u011fun \u2018pratikte\u2019 derecesini, risk fakt\u00f6r\u00fc belirler.<\/p>\n
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\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc hayat, d\u00fcz bir \u00e7izgide ilerlemez. G\u00fcn gelir, yollar \u00e7atallan\u0131r, bir yol ayr\u0131m\u0131na gelinir ve iki yoldan birini tercih gerekir, bu se\u00e7imin de bir bedeli vard\u0131r, bu bedelin \u00f6denmesi gerekir. Kritik yol ayr\u0131mlar\u0131nda, ayaklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ayn\u0131 anda iki yolda da y\u00fcr\u00fcr hale getirme, bir aya\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 birine, di\u011ferini \u00f6b\u00fcr\u00fcne uzatma \u00e7abas\u0131 kolay gibi gelir, \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmm\u00fc\u015f gibi gelir; ama \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm olmaz. \u00d6zellikle de bir haks\u0131zl\u0131k kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda, b\u00f6ylesi bir sahte denge hali, b\u00f6ylesi bir \u2018risk almadan\u2019 kendi evvelki konumunu koruma \u00e7abas\u0131, bizi ge\u00e7ici olarak rahatlatsa bile, bunun bir bedeli olur ve bu bedel zaman i\u00e7inde \u00e7\u0131kar kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za. Evvelki bir yaz\u0131da Hucurat s\u00fbresindeki \u2018karde\u015flik\u2019 \u00e2yetinin bir \u00f6nceki \u00e2yetle rab\u0131tas\u0131ndan hareketle belirtti\u011fim \u00fczere, bir haks\u0131zl\u0131k kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda \u2018risk almak\u2019tan sak\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in tav\u0131r alamaman\u0131n bedeli karde\u015fli\u011fin tam anlam\u0131yla tahakkuk edememesi, dostluklar\u0131n zay\u0131f kalmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n
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Ama g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda (ve eskilerin eskimez eserlerini okudu\u011fumuzda anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00fczere b\u00fct\u00fcn zamanlarda) kolayl\u0131\u011fa meyleder insano\u011flu. Risk almadan ya\u015famak ister. Hem derin dostluklar ya\u015famak ister, zor zaman\u0131nda dostunu yan\u0131nda g\u00f6rmek ister, hem de zor zaman\u0131nda dostunun yan\u0131nda olmaktan tedirgin olur, d\u00fcnya dostunun kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaysa dostunun yan\u0131nda olmaktan \u00e7ekindi\u011fi gibi dostlu\u011funu if\u015fadan dahi \u00e7ekinir. Bir tarafta g\u00f6r\u00fcnmek vefan\u0131n veya hakkaniyetin gere\u011fi ise ama belli riskleri \u00fcstlenmeyi gerektiriyorsa, suskunlu\u011fu tercih eder. Yahut, di\u011ferleri gibi ta\u015f atmasa da, \u2018g\u00fcl atarak\u2019 durumu kurtarmay\u0131. Oysa, ilgili \u00f6yk\u00fcden malum oldu\u011fu \u00fczere, dostun att\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00fcl, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n att\u0131\u011f\u0131 ta\u015ftan daha fazla zedeler dostluklar\u0131.<\/p>\n
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Sevecen olmak kolayd\u0131r; y\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fcze solgun bir g\u00fcl\u00fcc\u00fck tak\u0131n\u0131r, ses tonunuzu yumu\u015fat\u0131r, kelimelerinizin kibar ve \u00f6vg\u00fc y\u00fckl\u00fc olmas\u0131n\u0131 tercih edersiniz, yeter.<\/p>\n
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Dost g\u00f6r\u00fcnmek de kolayd\u0131r; arada s\u0131rada arars\u0131n\u0131z dostunuzu, halini hat\u0131r\u0131n\u0131 sorars\u0131n\u0131z, derin olmayan sularda s\u00f6yle\u015firsiniz.<\/p>\n
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Ama b\u00f6ylesi bir sevecenlik, sevildi\u011finizi garanti etmez; b\u00f6ylesi bir dostluk, hakik\u00ee dostlu\u011fu belgelemez.<\/p>\n
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Hakik\u00ee sevgi ve hakik\u00ee dostluk, zor zamanlarda \u00e7\u0131kar ortaya. Dostu i\u00e7in risk almay\u0131 gerektiren durumlarda ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar.<\/p>\n
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B\u00f6yle bir anda, \u201cVefa gavr-\u0131 in\u2019idama \u00e7ekildi \/ T\u00fbfan-\u0131 gadr feverana ba\u015flad\u0131 \/ Kavl ve amel aras\u0131nda uzun bir mesafe a\u00e7\u0131ld\u0131\u201d diyorsa \u015fair, ortada an\u0131lmaya de\u011fer bir dostluk h\u00e2s\u0131l olmam\u0131\u015f demektir.<\/p>\n
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Dostluk sizin i\u00e7in de\u011ferliyse, bunu tesisin yolu, zor zaman\u0131nda dostunuz i\u00e7in risk almaya raz\u0131 olabilmenizdir.<\/p>\n
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Tam ve hakik\u00ee dostunuzu tan\u0131mak istiyorsan\u0131z, bunun da g\u00f6stergesi, sizin i\u00e7in risk alabilme yetene\u011fidir.<\/p>\n
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Ki, zihnimin bu m\u00e2n\u00e2larla me\u015fgul oldu\u011fu bir g\u00fcnde, Necm s\u00fbresindeki tek bir kelime tak\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r zihnime. S\u00fbrenin ikinci \u00e2yetindeki, Hz. Peygamberin sahabilerine at\u0131fla tarif edildi\u011fi \u2018sahibukum,\u2019 yani \u2018sahibiniz,\u2019 yani \u2018dostunuz,\u2019 \u2018arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u2019 kelimesi: \u201c\u0130ndi\u011fi dem o y\u0131ld\u0131za yemin ederim ki, sahibiniz \u015fa\u015f\u0131rmad\u0131, az\u0131tmad\u0131 ve o hevas\u0131ndan konu\u015fmuyor.\u201d<\/p>\n
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Hz. Peygamber\u2019in Allah taraf\u0131ndan sahabiye at\u0131fla \u2018sahibiniz\u2019 diye, yani \u2018sahabilerin arkada\u015f\u0131\u2019 diye tarif edilmesi, elbette sahabiyi y\u00fcceltiyordu. \u015ean\u0131 zaten y\u00fcce Habibullah, rahmeten li\u2019l-\u00e2lem\u00een aleyhissal\u00e2tu vesselam\u2019\u0131 de\u011fil. Sahabiler, Allah Res\u00fbl\u00fcn\u00fcn sohbetine kat\u0131l\u0131p ona \u2018sahib,\u2019 yani arkada\u015f olduklar\u0131; ve bu sohbette duyduklar\u0131 hakikate \u2018sahip \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p,\u2019 bu sahip \u00e7\u0131kma u\u011fruna her t\u00fcrl\u00fc riski g\u00f6ze ald\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131, her\u015feylerini fedaya haz\u0131r durduklar\u0131 i\u00e7in, onlar\u0131n Res\u00fblullah\u2019a arkada\u015f olmalar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k Res\u00fblullah\u2019\u0131 onlar\u0131n arkada\u015f\u0131 olarak tarif ediyordu Kur\u2019\u00e2n.<\/p>\n
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Ne mutlu sahabilerin birbiri aras\u0131nda ve Res\u00fblullah\u2019a kar\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi dostlu\u011fun, arkada\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n s\u0131rr\u0131ndan hissedar olup dostunun hakk\u0131 ve hat\u0131r\u0131 i\u00e7in risk almaya raz\u0131 olanlara…<\/p>\n
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24.11.2005 G\u00dcNDEL\u0130K HAYATIN ak\u0131\u015f\u0131 i\u00e7inde, b\u00fcy\u00fck foto\u011fraflar, b\u00fcy\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler, b\u00fcy\u00fck hedefler aras\u0131nda k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck davran\u0131\u015flar, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck tav\u0131r al\u0131\u015flar boy verir. Oldum olas\u0131, bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u015feylere dikkat etmi\u015fimdir. B\u00fcy\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerin veya b\u00fcy\u00fck hedeflerin, bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u015feylerle s\u0131nand\u0131\u011f\u0131na inan\u0131r\u0131m \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc. B\u00fcy\u00fck meselelerdeki i\u00e7tenli\u011fimizin, hasb\u00eeli\u011fimizin, adanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n kendisini bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck meselelerde ele verdi\u011fine inan\u0131r\u0131m. B\u00fcy\u00fck bir davan\u0131n derdini dillendiren bir […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"ppma_author":[132],"class_list":["post-83451","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-yazarlar"],"yoast_head":"\n